Look out 50 here I come! I love getting older. Now, I’ve heard many women utter sentiments such as this, but I must admit…I’m not one of them. I’d like to be. But, I’m not. If the truth be known, if the lines on my face are an indication of distinction and character well,… I’d like to opt for a little less character. Although, I’d like to think of myself as a woman who despite a little resistance to the aging process is aging somewhat gracefully—this too would be a lie. Because I am a woman who is kicking and screaming her way to 50!
I know, I know, aging happens—you can’t stop it. If we could, we would all be dipping our toes into the fountain of youth. Heck, I’d dive in if you gave me the chance. I would sincerely like to know…is there ANYONE besides me, who is resentful of the body fat deposits that are landing in places it has never ventured before? I can’t be the only woman who isn’t thrilled by what’s going on around the neck and don’t even get me started about my deeply entrenched smile lines. Good grief! Was I really that happy?! I don’t recall being THAT happy.
And, while I’m at it, I will add…some of the things that have tighten aren’t what I want tightened. I used to really love running. But my mid-life knees will tell you they’re not such a big fan of all the pounding these days and my hip flexors have certainly seen better days. I remember when 6 runs a week was normal and of late, I’m lucky if I can crank out two without something hurting. Sorry, I digressed…
Unfortunately, we live in a world where the emphasis is on youth and beauty so much so according to Orbis Research the global anti-aging market is growing so rapidly it is expected to reach $331.41 billion by 2021. That’s crazy! And, I will admit I am a contributor in this precipitous growth.
So how does one become at peace with what’s happening to their face and body as we knock-off another decade? How does one embrace mid-life? To help answer my questions, I turned to some inspirational women who have shared their wisdom on this subject and here are some of my favs:
Aging is out of your control. How you handle it though, is in your hands. Diane Von Furstenberg
Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. E. Roosevelt
Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength. Betty Frieden
Lastly, in the words of Audrey Hepburn, And the beauty of a woman, with passing years only grows.
Not only do I buy into what these wise women are saying; I believe it wholeheartedly. But their words do not always help me accept or embrace all the lines that comes with the territory. How does one get there? I believe one of the first steps to accepting all that comes with age is to ask yourself and be honest…would you really want to be 20 again? Although, I’d like the skin tone there is NO way I would want to be twenty again. Oh, my goodness, I did some dumb things in my twenty’s.
Moreover, I love the mindset that comes with age. I take comfort in knowing who I am, what I like and what I want. And, can I just say… I am without a doubt WAY more interesting now then when I was twenty. My conversation has evolved from where’s the party? to being able to form an articulate opinion about the impact of tourism in a third world country. And, it’s more than an opinion it’s backed up with the experience of having witnessed the impact when I was travelling through SE Asia.
This is all epic stuff and if I’m being honest with myself—perhaps, worth a few wrinkles. In trying to come to terms with aging, in my moments when I’m loving my mind but feeling a little resentful about my face I remind myself the following, “Aging is a privilege denied by many,” unknown. If that doesn’t snap me back to reality well…perhaps, I need another wrinkle.
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